Repaying the unconditional love of our parents

In Islam, parents are considered a means of attaining paradise, and showing kindness and compassion to them is seen as a way to earn Allah’s pleasure. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has said, “No child can repay his father unless he finds him enslaved and buys his freedom. These golden words of our beloved Prophet (bpuh) emphasize the idea that even if children were to try to repay their parents for all that they have done for them, it would be impossible. The only way to truly show gratitude is to show love, compassion, respect, kindness and care for one’s parents throughout their lives.

As we journey through life, we often forget the sacrifices made by our parents for our well- being. In the hustle and bustle of our busy lives, we neglect the very people who have given us life, love, and care. Filial responsibility is a virtue that has been emphasized in every culture and religion. It is the duty of children to care for their parents, just as they cared for us when we were young. When we were children they grasped our finger and made us learn walking but when they reach their old age, we as children leave them in lurch.

Our parents selflessly devoted their time, energy, and resources to raise us. They worked tirelessly to provide for our needs, comforted us in times of distress, and guided us through life’s challenges. As we grow older, our parents grow older too. Their strength and vitality begin to wane, and they need our care and support. It is our moral obligation to reciprocate their love and kindness. How beautifully has Indian playback singer Mohammad Rafi sung “Aey Nuney Say Phareshtay...” song in movie Ek Phool Do Mali where he emphasizes: “Aaj Ungli Thaam Ker Teri, Tujay Chalna Main Siklawau, Kal Haath Pakdna Mera Jab Main Bodha Hojawau”

But how sad! In today’s fast-paced world, many of us neglect our filial duties. We get caught up in our own pursuits and forget the needs of our parents. But it is never too late to make amends. We can start by showing appreciation for our parents, listening to their stories, and spending quality time with them. We can also offer practical help, such as assisting with household chores, managing their finances, and providing emotional support.

Moreover, we should strive to understand their perspectives, respect their wisdom, and learn from their experiences. By doing so, we not only fulfill our filial responsibilities but also cultivate a sense of empathy, compassion, and gratitude. Loving our parents is not just a duty; it is a privilege. It allows us to connect with our roots, honor our heritage, and find meaning in our lives.

Literally, I couldn’t hold back my tears when some days back I heard the evergreen and melodious song Afsoos Duniya, Kainsi Naa Loug Samsaar Saeteey written by Sufi poet Rajab Hamid sab, sung so mellifluously by one of the best singers of Kashmir, the legendary Ghulam Hassan Sofi sab where the poet has analyzed and defined human personality vis-à-vis the different stages of existence, and finally the culmination of everything into “nothingness”. What trickled the tears roll down my cheeks was undoubtedly when Sofi sab sung:

Treh (30) wuhur wateth doputh baabas kharaabati,

Czop lag baabo chukka dolmut bujhar syeeti.

Patau lakan wuchte kum kum mazaar waati

Afsoos Duniya.....

Czatjei (40) wahres shur tche paanas kaaras watie,

Chei khaas awlaad dake laayan yati kyu watie...

In this song, the reality of life has been aptly depicted in a philosophical and spiritual perspective.

As we care for our parents, we also set an example for our own children, teaching them the value of filial responsibility and the importance of family bonds. Never ever must we think that our parents are a burden on us when they reach their old age. We must treat them as an asset and a blessing from Allah. Children who show love and care towards their parents in old age are not only fortunate but they are blessed with diversity in their rizq (sustenance) in the form of tranquillity and prosperity.

In the end, loving our parents is a reminder of the transformative power of love and the enduring bonds of family. They are the pillars of our existence, and the architects of our lives, building a foundation of love and support. Loving them is not a duty, but a privilege to repay their unconditional love, for they are the embodiment of selfless love and devotion. Let’s hold them with love and gratitude. By embracing this virtue, we can create a more compassionate and harmonious society.

 by: Dr Rafeeq Masoodi The author is former Secretary Cultural Academy & Additional Director General Doordarshan, Srinagar