Importance of Parents in Islam
The culture of the nuclear family system is growing rapidly in Kashmir. While it might suit modern lifestyles, it has also brought a concerning trend: the neglect and abandonment of parents, particularly by adult sons, after marriage. Exceptions aside, it is disheartening to see how many young men, once they establish their own families, overlook their obligations towards the very people who gave them life and nurtured them.
Not living with parents might be understandable in certain circumstances. However, failing to take care of them—whether emotionally, physically, or financially—amounts to disobedience to Allah. In Islam, this neglect is not just a societal failing but a grave sin. Allah has placed parents at a highly revered status, second only to Him. The Quran repeatedly emphasizes the duty of children towards their parents, and neglecting this responsibility is a betrayal of faith itself.
The Status of Parents in Islam
Parents hold a sacred position in Islam. Allah commands kindness and respect towards them, especially as they age. The Quran says:
“And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.” (31:14)
This verse highlights the immense sacrifices parents make for their children, particularly mothers. Islam teaches that caring for them in their old age is not an option but an obligation.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) further emphasized the importance of parents. In a well-known hadith, he said:
“Paradise lies under the feet of mothers.”
This powerful statement illustrates that serving one’s parents, especially the mother, is a pathway to earning Allah’s pleasure and, ultimately, Paradise.
Disobedience to Parents: A Major Sin
Neglecting or mistreating parents is a grave sin in Islam. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“Shall I not inform you of the biggest of the major sins?” They said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.” He said, “Associating partners with Allah and disobedience to parents.”
This shows that disobedience to parents ranks among the most severe offenses in Islam, even alongside shirk (associating partners with Allah). Such neglect is not just a violation of social ethics but an affront to the divine order.
As your parents grow older, their needs increase. They may require emotional support, medical attention, and physical assistance. Islam teaches that these are opportunities for children to earn rewards, not burdens to be avoided.
The Role of Sons and Daughters-in-Law
In many cases, sons abandon their parents due to the influence of their spouses or the pressure to conform to a nuclear family lifestyle. While Islam encourages the harmonious relationship between spouses, it never permits a son to neglect his parents. The role of a daughter-in-law is also significant. She is not just a wife but part of the extended family, with her own responsibilities towards her husband’s parents.
A Blessing, Not a Burden
Taking care of parents, especially in their old age, is a test of faith and character. It is a chance to repay, in a small way, the immense love and care they have given throughout life. It is also a means of earning Allah’s favor and mercy.
Remember, it is not just about providing financial support but also about being present for them emotionally, spending time with them, and showing them love and respect. It is a blessing for you to be able to take care of your parents.
Author is a senior citizen living in Parimpora
