Hypocrisy born of insecurity

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Hypocrisy is the idea of presenting oneself as something one is not - claiming values that are not reflected in one’s actions. A hypocrite, then, is not someone who lies but someone who performs an identity rather than living by it.

But have we ever paused to ask where does this identity come from?

Why do we feel the need to pretend?

Why do we present versions of ourselves that are not truly us?

I believe, hypocrisy is born of insecurity. Insecurity is the fear of not being enough. But not enough for whom?-for the approval of others or for the ideal image that we hold about ourselves. This sense of inadequacy arises when we measure our worth against others and believe that our true selves may be judged or rejected.

And so, we wear the masks.

Masks of being stronger, kinder, wiser, more confident and at times harsher than we really are. Just because we are afraid of being seen as we truly are. In a world that demands perfection, authenticity feels risky and pretending feels safer. Thus, hypocrisy takes its roots as a response to fear. It is not a flaw, but a defense mechanism we all develop. It allows us to conceal our true self to avoid judgement and criticism.

As Nathaniel Hawthorne said:

“No man for any considerable period can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true.” He warns that wearing a false face for too long can lead to bewilderment.

The constant performance is exhausting. Overtime, the distance between who we are and who we pretend to be grows wider. Hawthorne advocates for authenticity in one’s life. When we embrace authenticity, we stop trying to be what others expect. This becomes possible when we face our insecurities and release the need to perform.

What emerges is not a better version of ourselves, but a truer one. Show the world your true self. Be real.Be you.

Sidrah Shafat, participant of GKSC Bootcamp.