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How I Wish to Be Treated by My Adult Children and Society

Aging with dignity means being seen, heard and valued—not for what we can do, but for who we are
11:09 PM Jan 23, 2025 IST | Guest Contributor
how i wish to be treated by my adult children and society
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I am a senior citizen living in Kashmir, life feels like a journey full of reflections. With each passing day, I find myself yearning for understanding, respect and love—not as grand gestures, but in the little things that make me feel valued. While I may not express it often, I do have expectations from my adult children and society. These expectations are not demands but simple hopes that stem from a lifetime of giving, nurturing, and investing in relationships.

From My Adult Children: The Love I Gave, Returned in Thoughtful Ways

 

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Respect My Wisdom, Don’t Ignore My Voice

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I have lived through years of experience, facing challenges and adapting to changes. My views may sometimes seem outdated, but they are rooted in lessons I’ve learned over decades. I hope my children acknowledge my perspective instead of brushing it off. Listening patiently and involving me in decisions—even in small ways—makes me feel relevant and appreciated.

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Time Is the Greatest Gift You Can Give

Life has a way of becoming busy, but a few moments spent together can mean the world to me. A phone call, a shared meal, or even a quick visit brightens my day. It’s not about the quantity of time but the quality of connection. When my children spend time with me, it reassures me that I still matter in their lives.

Show Compassion and Patience

Aging comes with its challenges—slower movements, forgetfulness, or repeated stories. I hope my children meet these moments with understanding and patience rather than frustration. A little compassion goes a long way in making me feel secure and loved.

 

Acknowledge My Needs Without Making Me Ask

There are times when asking for help feels like a burden. Whether it’s running errands, accompanying me to the doctor, or assisting with technology, I wish my children would proactively check in to see how I’m doing. These small acts of kindness reassure me that I am not forgotten.

 

Value the Legacy I Wish to Leave Behind

As a parent, I have always wished to leave my family with values, traditions and memories that bind us together. My stories, advice, and even the small objects I cherish are parts of this legacy. I hope my children see these things as treasures, not burdens.

From Society: A Place for Us Seniors to Belong

See Us as Contributors, Not a Burden

Society often views seniors as individuals who have outlived their usefulness. This couldn’t be further from the truth. We bring wisdom, skills, and experience that can guide and inspire younger generations. I hope society gives us opportunities to contribute, whether through mentorship programs, community roles, or volunteering.

 

Provide Spaces for Connection

Loneliness is one of the most significant challenges of aging. Public spaces, community centers and social events designed for seniors can create opportunities for connection and reduce isolation. A society that fosters interaction helps us feel more integrated and less invisible.

Ensure Dignity in Healthcare and Public Services

Accessing healthcare, transportation, or public services often feels daunting. I wish for a society that treats seniors with dignity and empathy in these spaces. Polite conversations, efficient services, and systems that prioritize our unique needs can make all the difference.

  1. Challenge Ageism in All Its Forms
    Ageism exists in the workplace, media, and even casual conversations. I hope society recognizes this bias and works actively to challenge it. Seniors deserve to be respected, not mocked, for the changes aging brings to our bodies and minds.

Promote Intergenerational Harmony

Bridging the gap between generations is crucial for a thriving society. I dream of a world where younger and older generations interact more—through schools, workplaces, or community events—so that mutual respect and understanding grow.

My Message to the Next Generation

To my children and society, I want to say this: the love, care, and support you show us seniors today is what you will pass on to your own children. One day, you too will grow older, and your needs may mirror ours. Treat us with kindness and empathy, not out of obligation, but out of love and recognition of the life we’ve lived and the sacrifices we’ve made.

What I seek is not extraordinary—just the chance to age with dignity, surrounded by love, respect and the warmth of belonging. With these, the sunset years of life can truly be golden.

G R Sofi is a senior citizen from Hawal, Srinagar